One of my absolute favorite movies is 27 Dresses. The movie is about a single lady who walked down the aisle 27 times as a bridesmaid, but never as a bride. She struggles to be a supportive friend while maintaining her sanity, and I truly felt her pain. On nine occasions, I wore dresses (some atrocious, a few too tight) to celebrate the unions of some of my closest friends and family members. From Kool-Aid red to sunshine yellow, I was there with a smile on my face.
My Breaking Point- During one of the nine unions, EVERYONE in the bridal party was dancing with their significant others, and I sat alone like a child on punishment. After trying not to cry for over an hour, I developed a stomach ache, so I left the reception and cried all the way home. I screamed to God- When is my time? Is something wrong with me?
When I got my nerves together, God reminded me that it wasn’t my time and to trust Him wholeheartedly! It was my goal to be married by 23 and to start having children at 25. While my plan was perfect in my eyes, God’s plan completely exceeded my dreams and expectations. By getting married at 30, God allowed me to mature in all areas of my life. Was I perfect? NO, but I was better equipped to become a wife. I can now say that if I were married at 23, I would now be divorced.
Quick tips for future wives…
- Reality Check: You’re human. You will have your “moments.” Every once and a while, have a QUICK pity party but don’t stay there. We have to learn how to get our emotions in check. After those first few tears, start reciting God’s promises and overcome those feelings of loneliness and depression.
- Don’t set yourself up for failure! In other words, stop watching television shows like Bridesmaids and Say Yes to the Dress if you can’t handle it. If you’re feeling lonely at the moment, find HEALTHY activities to keep yourself busy.
- Last but not least, trust God… Think about what you’re waiting for and understand that you’re waiting for a reason. If you’re faithful to God, He will fulfill His promises in His timing.
Don’t despise the process, embrace it! It’s coming!!!
Yet those who wait for the LORD Will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.- Isaiah 40:31